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Neurodiverse mediation is a specialized mediation process designed to help individuals with neurodiversity, such as autism spectrum disorder (ASD), ADHD, or dyslexia, resolve disputes in a fair and effective manner.

Traditional mediation approaches may not be suitable for everyone, especially those with neurodiverse conditions. This is because neurodiverse individuals often have different communication styles, processing needs, and sensitivities that can create challenges in a typical mediation setting.



Neurodiverse mediation addresses differenced in parties by: 


1) Creating a safe and inclusive environment:

  • Adapting the physical space to reduce sensory overload (e.g., providing noise-canceling headphones)
  • Using clear, concise, and plain language
  • Avoiding legal jargon
  • Allowing for additional time and breaks when needed
  • Providing visual aids and other communication tools
  • Offering fidget toys or other sensory tools for self-regulation


2) Facilitating effective communication:

  • Using mediators specifically trained to understand neurodiverse communication styles
  • Clarifying misunderstandings and confirming understanding regularly
  • Checking for nonverbal cues that may indicate discomfort or confusion
  • Paying attention to processing time and pacing communication accordingly
  • Avoiding assumptions and confirming understanding through open-ended questions


3) Addressing sensory sensitivities:

  • Minimizing sensory triggers, such as bright lights, strong smells, or loud noises
  • Offering alternative communication methods, such as written communication or email
  • Providing breaks and accommodations as needed
  • Respecting individual preferences for physical touch and personal space


4) Empowering self-advocacy:

  • Encouraging individuals to express their needs and preferences clearly
  • Providing support and guidance for self-advocacy
  • Assisting in identifying priorities and desired outcomes
  • Facilitating discussions and negotiations in a safe and non-judgmental environment


5) Achieving mutually beneficial outcomes:

  • Focusing on creative problem-solving and compromise
  • Exploring options that are fair, reasonable, and acceptable to all parties
  • Supporting the development of win-win solutions that meet everyone's needs
  • Ensuring that agreements are clear, concise, and easy to understand


The benefits of Neurodiverse Mediation include reduced stress and anxiety for neurodivergent individuals; an increased likelihood of reaching successful resolutions; improved communication and understanding between parties involved; empowered individuals to advocate for themselves and their needs; and promoted fairness and inclusivity in the dispute resolution processes.



The success rate of Neurodiverse Mediation varies depending on the couple or individual and their unique situation. However, we have helped many couples navigate the divorce process. 


Mediators come from all kinds of professional backgrounds. Some are attorneys, some are therapists, and others are trained specifically in conflict resolution. In general, mediators complete formal training in communication, negotiation, and managing difficult conversations, and many continue with advanced coursework in areas like divorce, co-parenting, or high-conflict dynamics.


My background brings together both legal and clinical expertise, which is especially valuable for families navigating neurodivergence or high conflict. I hold a Juris Doctor (JD) and a Master’s in clinical psychology, and a Master's in dispute resolution. I also specialize in ASD, ADHD, trauma, and complex family dynamics. I have advocated for parents in the 503/IEP process and have decades of experience working with children as well as adults going through a divorce, managing custody disputes, and in providing couples therapy for neurodiverse participants (diagnosed and undiagnosed). 


This combination makes me a stronger option for many families because:

  • I can explain legal considerations in clear, practical language
  • I understand the emotional and neurobiological factors driving conflict
  • I’m trained to support communication differences related to ASD/ADHD
  • I can help de-escalate high-intensity conversations
  • I create parenting plans and agreements that are realistic, stable, and developmentally appropriate


Most mediators come from either a legal or a mental health background.
I bring both, which allows for a more balanced, informed, and supportive mediation process—especially when the situation is complex.


Neurodivergent mediation services are available to assist all individuals, yet we specialize in working with families where neurodivergence is present. We can help navigate legal separations, parenting plans, custody arrangements, 730 evaluations, divorce agreements, co-parenting plans and blended family plans.  


During your first session, your counselor will ask you questions about your relationship and whThe legal separation process closely resembles the divorce process. You still file a petition, your spouse files a response, and you have access to the California family court system if you need a judge’s help to solidify a child support or custody agreement.

You also have access to all of the same resources you would if you were divorcing your spouse. For example, you can still undergo divorce mediation, even if you don’t want the decree of divorce once you’re finished.

Also, you can still seek legal advice from a divorce attorney, and the attorney-client relationship will be identical to what it would be if you were getting divorced.

Perhaps most importantly, the terms of your legal separation will be 100% legally recognized, binding, and enforceable. The only difference is that these terms will be stamped into existence on a legal separation judgment instead of a judgment of divorce.

However, if you begin the legal separation process and later decide that divorce is the better option for you and your spouse, you still have the opportunity to file an amended petition and end up with a divorce judgment after all.  at you hope to achieve from counseling. They will also provide you with information about their approach and what you can expect from future sessions.


There are a few reasons you might choose legal separation:

  • You aren’t sure you want a divorce yet; you can figure it out while protecting yourself financially and then reverse the legal separation later if you want.
  • If you do not want to divorce because of your children or religion, you can legally separate instead.
  • If you want to ensure your spouse has access to your company’s health insurance coverage or you want to file a joint tax return, you should legally separate instead of divorce.
  • If you need to stay married for a set time so your spouse can receive Social Security and military benefits, then legally separate until you reach that milestone and then decide what to do.



Couples who choose legal separation can avoid some of the requirements that make divorce feel overwhelming. One of the biggest barriers to filing for divorce in California is the residency rule: at least one spouse must have lived in the state for six months before they can file. If you don’t meet that requirement, the court will reject the petition.


Legal separation doesn’t have this restriction. You can file immediately, put temporary structure in place, and receive a binding judgment while you continue to sort out the bigger picture. And if you later decide to convert the separation into a divorce, most of the groundwork is already done.


Divorce also has a mandatory six-month waiting period between filing and finalization. Legal separation does not. If the two of you reach agreements quickly, the court can finalize your separation without delay, giving you the protection of an enforceable order much sooner.

Another difference is how rights and responsibilities function. A legal separation keeps certain marital rights intact. For example, a separated spouse can still make medical decisions if their partner becomes incapacitated, and inheritance rights remain in place—something many parents value when minor children are involved.


However, one major marital right does end at separation: you no longer accumulate community property. After the date of separation, what you earn is legally your own.


Legal separation also allows for easier reconciliation. Divorce is final; if you reconcile, you must remarry. A legal separation can be undone with a simple form—either a Motion to Vacate (if finalized) or a Motion to Dismiss (if still pending). Your original marriage date remains intact, which can matter for future support calculations.


Divorce, on the other hand, ends the marriage completely and allows either person to remarry. While divorce often has financial downsides, there are situations where it creates financial advantages. Some people gain more control over their money, some access retirement funds without penalties during the divorce process, and parents with lower post-divorce household income sometimes qualify for increased college financial aid for their children.


Legal separation and divorce each serve a purpose. Separation offers space, stability, and structure when a couple isn’t ready—or eligible—to fully dissolve the marriage. Divorce offers finality and the freedom to move forward.


When people think about resolving family law issues, they often assume litigation is the only path forward. But mediation offers a calmer, more practical alternative that can reduce stress and lead to healthier long-term outcomes. Below are some of the key reasons families choose mediation over going to court.


1) Communication and Collaboration

Mediation is built around conversation—not confrontation. Instead of arguing against each other in a courtroom, both parties sit down with a neutral guide who helps them talk through concerns and explore solutions that work for everyone. This approach often leads to more respectful interactions and stronger co-parenting relationships down the road.


2) Control and Flexibility

In litigation, a judge makes the final decisions, even though they may know very little about your family. Mediation gives that power back to you. You and your co-parent can create agreements that fit your specific needs, priorities, and family dynamics. This flexibility allows for thoughtful, personalized solutions that a courtroom simply can’t offer.


3) Cost and Time Efficiency

Court cases can take months—or even years—and the legal fees add up quickly. Mediation is usually much faster and more affordable. Sessions are scheduled at your convenience, and the focus stays on problem-solving rather than building competing legal arguments. Most families appreciate the efficiency and the ability to move forward sooner.


4) Emotional Well-Being

Family law conflict is stressful for everyone involved, especially children. Litigation often heightens tension and can deepen divisions. Mediation creates a calmer, more supportive space where emotional needs can be acknowledged and managed. This approach often reduces stress, improves communication, and helps families transition with greater stability and care.


Yes — you will receive a written agreement that clearly outlines all the decisions made in mediation.
This document gives you a roadmap moving forward and can be shared with attorneys, financial planners or filed with the court if needed.


No — private mediation does not replace the court’s required mediation session if you’ve already filed and can’t agree on custody.
The court still requires parents to attend their official Family Court Services mediation.

However, private mediation can help you avoid the court process altogether if you reach agreements before filing. And even if you do have to go through the court’s brief session, most families find that private mediation is where the real, detailed work gets done—especially for parenting plans, neurodivergent needs, and high-conflict situations.




Neurodivergent family systems often require:

  • Slower pacing
  • Extra clarity in decision-making
  • Executive-function scaffolding
  • Sensory-aware scheduling
  • Trauma-sensitive communication support

This deeper work results in more stable long-term outcomes and greatly reduces future conflict.




High-conflict and special-needs cases require more time because there are more decisions to make, more details to clarify, and more support needed to reach stable agreements. These cases often involve:


1) More Difficult Communication Patterns

Parents may interrupt each other, struggle to regulate emotions, or have difficulty staying focused on problem-solving. It takes extra time to slow the process down, reduce tension, and help both people feel heard enough to reach agreement.


2) More Issues to Resolve 

High-conflict families often need to address:

  • Trust ruptures
  • Safety or stability concerns
  • Disagreements about routines, therapies, or activities
  • Complex decision-making structures
    These layers require additional mediation time to work through thoroughly.


3) Neurodivergent or Special-Needs Considerations

When children have ASD, ADHD, anxiety, sensory needs, medical conditions, or learning differences, plans must include:

  • Sensory-aware transitions
  • School coordination
  • Therapy schedules
  • Predictability and structure
  • Behavioral planning
    These details require a slower, more thoughtful process.


4) More Detailed Written Plans

High-conflict families usually need parenting plans that are more specific to prevent future disagreements. This increases drafting time because the agreements must be:

  • Clear
  • Concrete
  • Court-friendly
  • Developmentally appropriate


5) More Revisions and Follow-Up

These cases typically involve more back-and-forth clarification because parents require additional support to feel comfortable with the final document.





Yes, most families opt for the Mediation and Parenting Plan package. There are several options available based upon your needs: 


Option One: Mediation (No Parenting Plan)

Starts at $5,000

This option is for couples who need support with separation, communication, conflict resolution, or practical decision-making, but do not need a parenting plan.


What this includes:

  • Mediation sessions tailored to ASD/ADHD communication styles
  • Support for emotional regulation and slowed pacing
  • Conflict de-escalation
  • Decision-making guidance
  • Memorandum of Understanding (if needed)
  • Flexible session scheduling


Why this starts at $5,000:
ND mediation takes time, patience, and structure. Most families require 10–16 hours of work, including both mediation time and follow-up.


Option Two: Mediation + Parenting Plan (Full Comprehensive Package)

Starts at $6,500

This is the most complete support option and includes both mediation sessions and the development of a detailed, ND-informed parenting plan.


What this includes:

  • All mediation services listed above
  • Parenting time schedules
  • Decision-making structures
  • Sensory, behavioral, and developmental considerations
  • School/therapy coordination needs
  • Co-parent communication guidelines
  • Transitions and routines tailored for ND kids
  • Full written parenting plan (drafted at $250/hr)


Why this package starts at $6,500:
Creating a parenting plan for a neurodivergent or high-conflict family is intensive work. These plans typically require 12–20 hours between mediation and drafting. The higher minimum reflects the depth of detail, emotional containment, and professional expertise required to create a plan that truly works in real life.


Option Three: Stand-Alone Parenting Plan

Starts at $4,500

For families who only need a parenting plan — with or without full mediation.


What this includes:

  • Focused mediation sessions to resolve parenting issues
  • Assistance clarifying routines, transitions, and decision-making
  • Sensory and developmental accommodations
  • Drafting of the written plan


Why this starts at $4,500:
Even a “simple” parenting plan requires 8–12 hours of combined mediation and drafting to ensure clarity, structure, and long-term workability.


Which Option Is Right for You?

If you're unsure which category your situation falls into, I’m happy to help you identify the best fit during a consultation. Most neurodivergent families choose the Comprehensive ND Mediation and Parenting Plan Package because it provides the structure, pacing, and clarity their situation needs.


Option One: Mediation Only Package - $5000

  1. First Payment Due: (Session One) – $2000
  2. Second Payment Due: (Session Three) - $1500
  3. Third Payment Due: (Session Five) - $1500

Option Two: Mediation and Parenting Plan Package - $6500

  1. First Payment Due: (Session One) – $2500
  2. Second Payment Due: (Session Three) - $2000
  3. Third Payment Due: (Session Six) - $2000

Option Three: Parenting Plan Only Package - $4500

  1. First Payment Due: (Session One) – $1500
  2. Second Payment Due: (Session Three) - $1500
  3. Third Payment Due: (Session Four) - $1500


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